Part 9: From Courtship to Dating: A History

Welcome to the Christian Felix blog - In honor of Valentine's Day, we are taking a closer look at the history of courtship and dating. This is the ninth post in our series, and today we'll be discussing how the traditions of courtship have changed over time. Thanks for reading!

I'm drawn to all of these new twists on old customs throughout the century. That's why - today, we're going back to the origins of DATING.

The history of courting and dating is a topic that has provoked much debate. Some people believe that dating was introduced recently, while others argue that it has been around for centuries. We'll look at the history of courtship and dating to see how they've changed over time, in this post.

Courtship can be traced back to the 12th century when it was considered a formal process in which a man had to gain the permission of the woman's family before he could ask her out on a date. In those days, dating was not common and most couples would get married very young. And who initiated these processes? The families of the couple!

The family was involved in courtship, but the girl and boy were more influenced by their friends than their parents. But what really did change through the 700 years until 1900? Did some big invention of the Industrial Revolution impact this form of dating? Electricity, Light Bulb, steam machine, or Eisenbahn?

Nope! The telephone is what did it. In the early 1900s, when the phone started to become commonplace in people's homes, dating changed dramatically. Couples could now talk and get to know each other without ever having to leave their house. This led to a more casual form of dating which we still see today.

Women started to gain more independence, and could now work and make their own money. They were able to go out with men without having a chaperone. This was a big step for women's rights!

The dating culture became even more relaxed in the next decade when WWII started (1939). During this time, there weren't many single people because they were all fighting in the war.

After WWII, dating became popular during the 1950s when young people started to go on dates without their parents knowing about it or approving of it. They used a car for these secret rendezvous! This was very different from how things were done before then...

People began meeting at schools, through friends, or at work. Dating gradually became more casual and people started to date for fun, rather than getting married right away.

The 1960s was a time of change - in society, fashion, music and relationships. Young people were breaking free from the traditional values that their parents had grown up with. This is also when cohabitation began to become more popular.

Dating became less formal and more about having fun. Couples started to experiment with different types of relationships, such as open relationships and polyamory.

The 1970s was a time of sexual liberation and free love. This is when the idea of "hooking up" began to emerge. People were no longer getting married as young as they had in previous decades, if at all!

In the 1980s and 1990s, dating apps began to become more popular. People were able to create an account on Tinder or Bumble from home and message each other without ever having met face-to-face before then.

This new way of meeting people online led to a more superficial form of dating. People would swipe right or left on someone's profile based on their looks, without knowing anything about them.

We're now in the 2020s and things have changed yet again! Dating has become even more casual and people are still experimenting with different types of relationships. There is not only one way to date or "the way to date".

There are so many different ways to find love and be in a relationship - it's up to you to figure out what works best for you. Which role do flowers play in these new ways of dating?

Will flowers still be part of dating in the future?

Or will partners exchange virtual flowers in their virtual reality? Who knows what the future brings, but one thing is for sure: we are here to help you find the perfect way of saying "I love you"!


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